Anisa Lewis of Positive Parenting and Coaching draws on 20+ years in education – and 16 as a parent herself – makes the point that you can’t look after your children’s wellbeing if you’re neglecting your own.
The digital age has brought about profound changes in the way children interact with the world, offering both remarkable opportunities and significant challenges. The proliferation of digital devices and online platforms has become an integral part of children's (and adults) lives, influencing their mental health and overall wellbeing in various ways. While technology can enhance learning and connectivity, it also poses risks that need careful management to ensure the healthy development of young minds.
Benefits of digital technology
I feel we would be remiss, if we didn’t start with looking at how digital technology, when used appropriately, can offer numerous benefits to children. Educational apps, interactive games, and online resources provide opportunities for learning and development. These tools can make gaining knowledge easier; questions can be answered quicker and it supports curiosity by making content more engaging and accessible, as well as, catering to different learning styles and enabling personalised learning experiences.
Social media platforms and communication tools also play a crucial role in keeping children connected with their peers and family members. These platforms bring with them the power of connectivity, making the world or our neighbourhoods feel that little more accessible.
One of the ways that we can allow our child(ren) to benefit from our technology heavy world is by setting clear boundaries around screen use. This is crucial for managing its impact on children. It is recommended that age-appropriate limits are put around technology, however, it is also worth considering how your children are interacting with screens, is it passive (such as watching TV, scrolling reels or videos) or is it interactive (e.g. homework, gaming, conversations etc.). Interactive involvement perhaps warrants more time than passive involvement, however, each family is different, and you must do what is right for your family. Parents need to involve their children in the conversations around screens so that routines can be established that balance screen time with outdoor activities, family interactions, and sleep hygiene.
Risks and challenges
Despite the benefits, the digital landscape poses several risks to children's mental health and wellbeing. One of the primary concerns is the exposure to inappropriate content. The internet, while rich in useful and educational material, also harbours content that can be harmful or disturbing to young minds. Inadequate supervision and lack of digital literacy can lead to children encountering such material, which can negatively impact their mental health.
Setting aside dedicated family time without screens fosters deeper connections and strengthens bonds, providing children with a sense of security and belonging outside the digital realm.
Another significant issue is cyberbullying. Unlike traditional bullying, cyberbullying can occur at any time and place, often leaving victims feeling trapped and helpless.
Moreover, excessive screen time has been linked to a range of negative outcomes. Prolonged exposure to screens can interfere with sleep patterns, leading to sleep deprivation, which is known to affect mood and cognitive function. Additionally, high screen time is associated with a sedentary lifestyle, contributing to physical health problems that can indirectly affect mental wellbeing.
Teaching children about digital literacy and online safety equips them with essential skills to navigate the digital landscape responsibly. Discussing topics such as privacy, cyberbullying, and distinguishing credible sources from misinformation helps children develop critical thinking and resilience online. Parents can monitor their children's online activities while fostering open communication about their digital experiences, creating a supportive environment where children feel comfortable seeking guidance when faced with online challenges.
Social media and self-esteem
Social media, while a powerful tool for connection, can also have detrimental effects on children's self-esteem and body image. Platforms that emphasise appearance and popularity can create unrealistic standards and foster a culture of comparison. Children, particularly adolescents, may feel pressured to present a perfect image online, leading to feelings of inadequacy and low self-worth. The constant quest for validation through likes and comments can exacerbate these issues, contributing to mental health problems such as anxiety and depression.
Tween and teen years are plagued with the need to fit in, to be like friends and influencers, so conversations and limits need to be considered carefully for this age group. There is a movement from some parents to move away from smart phones, and back to phones that allow texting, calls and little else. How would your young person react to this?
Encouraging children to engage in offline activities is vital for their overall wellbeing. Hobbies such as sports, arts, reading, and imaginative play promote creativity, problem-solving skills, and emotional resilience. Setting aside dedicated family time without screens fosters deeper connections and strengthens bonds, providing children with a sense of security and belonging outside the digital realm.
Mitigating the negative impact
Addressing the negative impact of digital technology on children's mental health requires a multifaceted approach. Parental involvement and supervision are crucial in guiding children's digital habits. Parents should engage in open conversations about online safety, set boundaries for screen time, and encourage a balanced lifestyle that includes physical activity and offline social interactions.
Parents play a pivotal role as role models in shaping their children's attitudes and behaviours towards technology. Demonstrating mindful and balanced technology use sets a positive example for children to emulate. Being present during family meals, prioritizing face-to-face interactions, and engaging in activities that do not involve screens demonstrate the importance of maintaining a healthy balance between digital and real-world experiences.
Designating specific areas in the home, such as bedrooms, as tech-free zones promotes better sleep hygiene and reduces nighttime exposure to screens, which can interfere with sleep patterns. Establishing tech-free times, such as during meals or before bedtime, encourages meaningful interactions and supports children in developing healthy routines.
Utilizing parental controls and monitoring software helps parents manage and supervise their children's online activities effectively. These tools enable parents to set age-appropriate content filters, monitor screen time, and track their children's online interactions to ensure their safety and wellbeing. Regularly reviewing and adjusting these settings as children grow and their digital habits evolve is essential in maintaining a safe digital environment.
The digital age presents both opportunities and challenges for children's mental health and wellbeing. While technology can facilitate learning and connectivity, it also exposes children to risks that can have serious psychological consequences. By fostering digital literacy, encouraging healthy digital habits, and creating supportive environments, we can help children navigate the digital world safely and positively. Ultimately, a balanced approach that maximises the benefits of technology while mitigating its risks is essential for promoting the mental health and wellbeing of the younger generation.
